J wasnt having a feed before bed for a while ( we moved to DH putting to bed for the most part) but always had a 4.30ish feed (sometimes 3.30ish)... i think when he woke in th enight it was like 'is it time for that yet???'. he was clawing at me all the time in the day trying to feed and it was a major comfort thing for him (but was becoming hard for me to manage - different issue/circumstance). iot wasnt as hard asi thought to wean him - maybe you can get rid of those feeds using your DH to help - i decided it was time when the feeds werent a sleep cue...
he is in the merino kids bags (the ones from nz). i love them. his fits ok but he isnt so big (only just hitting 10kg). i think i will buy one a size bigger soon and see how we go. i know with DS1 i bought some bigger bags and then he gave them up!
some sep advice - DS1 was a terrible sleeper - we moved him to a bed at 19 months (a king single so a big boy bed) and this created a much more positive experience for him (and me!). i used to lie down and settle him and then leave. it chgd things a lot for us. but he never really liked his cot! i have also heard of people putting a mattress on the floor and that helping a lot too....