What a perfect baby... Your experiences?

[nickle730]

My DD1 slept all night, rarely cried, went to anyone and smiled constantly. My DS screamed all night for 8 weeks, wouldn't sleep during the day anywhere other then his cot and was a difficult feeder. DS2 has only just started having a nap during the day and previously has been awake from 8am to 10pm. She is going through a 'mummy' phase and only wants me.

All my babies were perfect - to me - and they still are! Who cares what anyone else thinks? Tell them that you think your babies are just perfect however they are.

[Cassius2]

i had this too

but guess what?! they can all suffer in their undies 'cause they are BOTH perfect lol! very different but totally perfect (in my totally unbiased mama opinion haha)

[helle]

pfft... my baby is perfect XD

Ok, mines over 1, but i found he was pretty textbook until about 6 months, then all hell broke lose and i'm still trying to wrangle it in *sigh* (hell, that is)
Ignore them, and enjoy your happy little man. Maybe he'll stick it to them

[*EJ*]

I sometimes think my memory very convenietnly forgets the tough times and that's a good thing They were never that bad and i have wonderful memories from my boys, even when they were tough the feeling of acomplishment once we got through those times is what i remember the most.

DD (#3) has had some reflux troubles and in the times when that was not yet being treated she was nothing like my boys but once she was being treated i kept thinking ot myself 'this is the baby i know she is meant to be'.

I've just had a lie on the ground with her while she had a play so placidly just staring at me most of the time. She's perfect whether it's a good day or a bad day.

Same goes for the boys as pre-schooler and toddler when they are being really cheeky. They are still perfect just the way they are.

[onthefly]

Do we define perfection as sleeping lots?

I thought I'd lucked out with DD - a sleeping baby! - but since the 4-week mark it has deteriorated significantly. Should have kept my smugness to myself.
But she's still absolutely adorable and the happiest, smiliest little thing.
And despite spending most of his first 12 weeks screaming and not sleeping much in the first 2 years or so, DS is also an incredible kid. If that's what it took, then I wouldn't want to change anything.

[lilmisspositive]

Lol. Sorry If I could change the word "perfect" in this thread title I would. I ment happy, sleeping babies... : )

Thanks for everyone's replies. At the moment ds is waking once in the night and is having the same sleeping/eating habits as dd did. Now just need to brush up on a routine.
Here is hoping he stays a happy, sleeping baby. : ) Was very interested in how they changed from newborns to a few months later, so thank you to those that shared. : )

[peanutter]

our J-man was a 4 hour routine baby from the day he popped out, started sleeping around 6-7 hours over night within a few weeks, and was sleeping 10-12 hours at around 3 months.

people initially kept warning me that 4 hourly routine wasn't enough when he was little, then they kept warning me that one day it would turn to pot, now they warn me that our next baby will be a nightmare, and J-man is the teaser, to trick us into having more.

I'm getting good at ignoring such comments

[lilmisspositive]

I'm getting good at ignoring such comments

I am getting rather good at that too now! Thanks for sharing! XX

[mummajj]

DS was asleep for pretty much 3 weeks straight. lol. at about 3 weeks, he woke up a lot more. he now has a screaming fit every day at about 11am. (i think its his arsenic hour) as he is perfect in the evening. he does grizzle a fair bit but that is getting less as he gets older.
but in saying that he sleeps right through 12 hours with 1 wake up. so im happy!!

[HotI]

blerk

[MummyNaomi]

We haven't even conceived #2 yet and I've already had these comments - from the MIL of course

People are just stupid!!

But I did want to add that every baby IS perfect - perfectly normal, they do all the things we expect, sleep, dont sleep, cry, feed, spew, get sick, smile, get wind, poo, coo, etc etc. If a perfect baby is described as one who is quiet, and is barely an interruption to our lives, then these people must have a pretend baby!!

[lilmisspositive]

But I did want to add that every baby IS perfect - perfectly normal, they do all the things we expect, sleep, dont sleep, cry, feed, spew, get sick, smile, get wind, poo, coo, etc etc. If a perfect baby is described as one who is quiet, and is barely an interruption to our lives, then these people must have a pretend baby!!

Like I have said, if I could change the word "perfect" in this thread, I would. I just wanted peoples experiences the first few weeks compared to weeks after. Unlike a great deal of others, I have no family here and ask many questions that obviously in this case could of been better articulated.
This is one of them. Anyone know if I can change the title of this thread? and how?

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Well, I only have the one. But he is the perfect child.

My friends don't agree, but they're biased. Their children are not more perfect than Liebling. They are just blind and call his interactivity, adoration of me as a play-mate, high energy levels, strong personality and strong will, and 2am philosophy "hard work". (Even in the small hours, I still love hearing "but Mammy, when I wake up I don't sleep, do I?")

I am sure should I have another, that child will be perfect too. As if a child of mine wouldn't be perfect! I'm a geneticist married to an engineer: we produce perfect children (LOL). And that's what I tell people when they even hint Liebs could be improved.

[HotI]

Like I have said, if I could change the word "perfect" in this thread, I would. I just wanted peoples experiences the first few weeks compared to weeks after. Unlike a great deal of others, I have no family here and ask many questions that obviously in this case could of been better articulated.
This is one of them. Anyone know if I can change the title of this thread? and how?

Why do you want to change it? You used the term perfect, and later defined it as 'happy, sleeping babies'. If that is what your question is about, and your definition, then stick to it. Changing the title isn't going to change if people agree with you or not or are striving for the same thing in a child.

[crumpet]

again i think its what u define as perfect...

BUT i get told my DD is perfect becasue she has never fed less than 4hrly, she has always been a calm and placid baby who hasnt needed to be settles, and she has slept through from 6-7 weeks.... oh and coz she put herself into a great routine

now dont get me wrong, of course i think she is perfect but not becasue of her behaviour!

i realise we are very very lucky to not have a unsettled baby.

i spoke to my MCHN about it, when DD was about a month old, saying how i hope she stayed as good as she was then and in my MCHN's experience, the babies that are still super placid and calm at 4ish weeks tend to stay that way, how true it is, obviously you wouldnt rely on it, but its been pretty true for us

[Tinks]

I had 3 of these 'perfect' babies. They all fed 4 hourly and slept at least 8 hrs at night from birth. I was told to wait until they were toddlers, then I'd know what I was in for. Well, they became toddlers and they weren't too bad, just normal inquisitive toddlers who got up to mischief but they still weren't the screaming banshees I'd been told they would become. We got through that phase and then I got the 'wait until they're teenagers' comments (because good babies obviously means they'll be terrible teens ). I have 2 in high school now, they're still mischievious but they're not off the rails.

Maybe because I'm a calm person I have calm children?

Don't listen to 'them'.

I have to add that after I had my 1st everyone said my 2nd would scream all night. She didn't, neither did my 3rd.

[Junglemum]

My first was a fantastic sleeper and a very content baby from birth. I started to worry that there was something wrong with her because she never cried. She did go through a difficult sleep stage at about 7-8 months but it was short lived.

Dd2 was a terrible sleeper in the beginning. The night she was born she cried every hour and it didn't improve much until she was 12 months. But she had reflux and it made lying down difficult.

I hated that people felt smug because I got a baby who didn't sleep as well as the first. Why the he'll they care what my babies do is something I will never understand.

I'm fantatic and nodding and smiling and not entering into conversations about it though! Lol

[lilmisspositive]

Why do you want to change it? You used the term perfect, and later defined it as 'happy, sleeping babies'. If that is what your question is about, and your definition, then stick to it. Changing the title isn't going to change if people agree with you or not or are striving for the same thing in a child.

Maybe because then I wouldn't get so many responses based on the word "perfect" I was not being literal. I was looking for those to share their experiences. Thank you so much to those that did.