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thread: What is your view on ear piercing bubs?

  1. #55
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    Each to their own i say.
    Dsd got them done at 5 at her request, they were only cleaned while she was at our house & ended up with multiple infections so they had to be removed & let close over, she is now so afraid of the infections which she says hurt much worse than the actual piercing getting done, that despite her desire to redo them shes too afraid.
    Ive had gun & needle piercings in my ears & face & found the gun to be much quicker & pain free than needle piercings, but then i didnt think the ears hurt at all. The needle actually removes a piece of skin from you for the hole & takes longer to grow over if you change your mind. Dd loves my earrings & touches them asks about them then says 'my turn', the only reason i havent let her have a turn is the ongoing problems weve had with ear infections, wax, fluid etc, once thats all sorted if she continues to ask, ill take her to have it done.
    Maybe its my upbringing, i had multiple piercings in each ear by 14, but i just dont see ear piercing as an issue.

  2. #56
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    Apr 2008
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    As a pp said, I think the main issue is that you discuss this with your dh and try to agree on the issue. If there is disagreement then I wouldn't even consider it. You need to hear each others views and make a decision together.

  3. #57
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    Oct 2006
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    I am of Italian background too and my ears were pierced as a baby. It was expected from my family that I would have my DD's ears pierced as a baby too but DH and I decided we wouldn't do it and that we would have it done when and if DD wants to have them. She is almost five and has asked questions recently about how it is done. At the moment she says she wants to have them when she is a big schoolgirl lol (which is next year). Once she has made it clear to us that she definitely wants them we will make a decision about it.

  4. #58
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    Can I just add if you want to minimize infection try medical plastic piercing and then titanium earrings. Nickel causes infection and even expensive gold and silver earrings have nickel.
    Ok back in my little box

  5. #59
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    Jun 2010
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    DD won't be getting hers done til she's much older. I want her to be able to understand that there's a commitment to looking after them, so I'll see when she starts asking and explain it then. DH thinks 13 is a good age, as a growing up and going to high school thing. I think that sounds nice

    As for others, their choice. Just because I don't want it for my DD doesn't mean I don't think you should do it for yours. I do think though that both parents should agree.

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  6. #60
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    Aug 2010
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    I wont be making any cosmetic changes to my children without their informed consent

  7. #61
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    I feel really strongly against it. I would never deliberately inflict pain on my child simply because it looks "cute". I actually think it's bizarre that it's culturally acceptable to do so. Until a child is old enough to fully comprehend the concept of potential pain, old enough to clean/care for the piercings properly themselves & specifically make an informed request to have the piercings done, no way. I also agree babies are perfectly gorgeous just the way they are! They don't need bling!

  8. #62
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    Mar 2008
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    i want to wait for my girls to want to get it done. i still remember the day that i got mine and it was just a super happy memory. it was my 9th birthday present and all that joy!!! fabulous! such a happy memory and so happy that i have it to remember ITMS.

  9. #63

    Oct 2010
    Baldivis, WA
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    I do piercing and won't do it til they are 5. Number 1 reason is that ears can grow and are never even, I have had to re pierce lots of ears that were done young and ended up uneven. Number 2 reason at 5 most understand not to pull them, seeing a little toddler with a ripped earlobe is not nice.
    I have had lots of mums get angry at me because I won't take their money and do it
    I won't get DDs done now because of this. I was considering it but didn't think about growing ears, repiercing etc... I want DD to understand that it will hurt and not to touch them.
    I got my firsts at 9 years old! I still remember the pain and noise of the gun..

    Each to their own! ...

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  10. #64
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    Sep 2008
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    If I were you, I wouldnt do it simply because your DH is so against it.
    I think your hubby has as much right as you to an opinion where cosmetic issues are concerned, and if he is strongly against it, you should probably respect that.
    When all is said and done, as minor as it is, it is still a "medical"procedure, one which does carry some very minor risk of infection.
    I would be upset if my DH went and gave my DS a radical haircut, sure the hair will grow back, but at the end of the day, I have to look at him.
    I think decsions like this need to be made together, as once done, cannot be undone (yeah, I know you can take the earings out, but the fact that you ignored your DH cant be undone KWIM?)
    GL

  11. #65
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    People in glass houses and all that.

    I asked my 10 year old daughter if she regretted her modification and thought it was cruel? Her response? She laughed! "It's not cruel mum. I like it. And if I didn't like it I'd take them out."

    And then she went on to tell me about this book she started reading for school about how the girl in it was tortured by her step mother because the step mother was jealous and how that is cruel.

    But the smartest thing she said of all... "I don't know anyone who hates their parents because of pierced ears mum."

    I can totally understand that it may not be visually appealing to some, or that it's a rite of passage. I get that. But to insinuate its cruel. Yeah ok. I think a lot of things people do with their kids impacts negatively like how they parent, what they put into their kids mouths, how much time they spend with their kids. But I don't look at a little girl with pierced ears and immediately think "Quick! Call DOCS! Those parents are cruel!" Yeah no.

  12. #66
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    Haha wow!! I really have stirred the pot a bit! Very grateful for all your opinions though I think I still will get DD's ears pierced younger but maybe wait till she's a little older like closer to
    12 or 18 months.
    Thanks again for all ur replies!

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