thread: Where do I start???

  1. #1
    Registered User

    Mar 2009
    Brisbane Qld
    288

    Where do I start???

    I have 4 children I have done this 3 times before.......so why does even the thought of starting toilet training send chills down my spine.
    I honestly dont even know where to start, its like I have a complete mental blank. What do I do?? How do I start??? She would rather wear the potty as a hat than sit on it.......hmmm that could be a problem.

    My DD is such a strong willed challenging little soul that she has completely rewritten my parenting handbook everything I THOUGHT I knew about this mothering thing she has shown me I dont have a clue. She doesnt sleep when I want her too, she doesnt eat when I want her too, all the tricks I had up my sleeve she has exposed and looks at me like "OK what else you got"

    Maybe because she is my last baby that the Baby Gods have sent me a doozie.......sigh ok well she has to grow out of all this sooner or later right??? RIGHT????

    OK whinge over best go plan my next move......thanks for listening

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Nov 2010
    424

    Well if she had been your first baby, would you have gone back for another 3? Lol! I think his tricks us into a sense of security with good babies first

    No advice though sorry, we will be starting shortly with my dd who also likes to wear her potty. I'm determined to let her do things at her own speed but that is easier said than done!
    Good luck!

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Mar 2009
    Brisbane Qld
    288

    HaHa too true kelsbels

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    8,369

    I just waited until my DS was ready - it was a nightmare when people tried to talk me into starting earlier. Who cares DS was in nappies longer than his mates? No-one cares now he is trained.

    But seriously, compliant children exist? Who nap and eat and play and do stuff when YOU want, not when they want? Don't believe that one.

  5. #5

    Mar 2008
    Where dreams are now reality
    2,318

    Im out of my depth here having only taught the one kid but DD does go through phases of I am not sitting on a damn toilet I want to wee where the dog does So when those times comes I have found only just a few weeks back that when she is on the toilet and in one of these moods, I tickle her legs with a feather, I might use a scarf or something with a bit more texture. In the beginning we just started to put her on after naps etc and made sure that she either had books to read, songs to sing or stuff to touch all so she wasnt as aware of the potty.

    Good luck but remember she will work it out, you wont be changing nappies in 5 years

  6. #6
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    Jan 2009
    In my own little fantasy world
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    I have a rather challenging DS. I think DD is my reward for not strangling him some days

    With TT him, I took his lead. At kindy, they put all the kids on the toilet straight after every nappy change. One day he just started doing wees when they put him on so we carried on at home from there. We made a big deal of it - "If you do a wee on the toilet, you can wear your big boy undies!!!" and if he did a wee "Yayyyy Claps for DS". He has always refused a potty so we got him a little step & seat for the toilet which he was excited about. Now he won't use the seat either. He reckons he has a "big bum" so he'll only sit directly on the toilet. Ah who cares, he's using it! We still struggle trying to convince him to sit on the toilet some days but he is improving. We are only a few months in though so accidents are to be expected.

    Maybe introduce her to the toilet slowly when you change her nappies. One day it'll click. I wouldn't try to force it on her though, if she's not ready.

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Gold Coast
    127

    We're in the same boat here, Nina...DD's just not interested. She'll do a wee on 'cue' when she gets into the bath and sometimes after going for a swim but other than that she'd sit in a wet or pooey nappy all day if she could.

    I plan to buy her some big girl undies and let her get around the house in those now that the weather's warming up- hopefully, the feeling of being wet will help her to get the idea...we'll see. I figure she'll get it one day

    Hang in there..she's obviously been sent to challenge you...luckily she's super-cute