Try wearing her a bit earlier in the day, like for one of her naps, and see if that makes a difference. It did for us - A carrier sleep at 9am made the witching hour at 5pm soooo much easier to bear. And usually got a better day nap too.

"It's never to early to start dinner" was the best advice I ever got. I meal plan, I start prep early, or whenever it's quiet, and then spend 5-9pm pretty much on the couch.
Why do you think a carrier sleep in the am made a difference in the pm? I wouldn't have expected that...

Thanks everyone. I'm just really missing hubby. I think. You're right, we are not supposed to do this alone, but the community and extended family thing doesn't happen in my culture anymore

Had a cry on the phone to mum. It helped, surprisingly. Lol.

She went to sleep at 10. So I'm going to finally sign off the iPad for the night and sleep too.