we've been married 6 yrs, together 10. I'm a SAHM who gets FTBB and A. But we have seperate accounts and i have to ask DH for money when mine is gone, usually 2 days after i get it, once i buy groceries and pay bills How can i explain that i feel....actually i don't exactly know how i feel about it except that i hate it. I can't spontaneously meet friends for coffee, or even go to their homes if i can't get money for petrol? i have to wait for him to get home from work to go and get us milk. If i ask for money to get something for tea, and he gives me $10? I don't want to make him sound controlling and mean, cos he's actually not, but i think i've let it go too long and he just doesn't realise? His parents had a very strange money relationship and i know he tries hard not to be like his dad, but it's stressing me out regardless as i can see elements of the same thing happening with us. What's the best way to fix this? suggest a joint account and a joint budget to make it all fairer, or at least get him to transfer some $ into my account when he gets paid and agree that i'll take care of all grocery shopping.
I'm sorry for the long post, i'm just getting more and more fed up with the situation