I felt much the same as Tashy when I realised I would be relying on loverboy financially, and because I couldn't bear the thought of him handing me money he organised for part of his pay to go straight into my account. Plus I get the ftb's in my account and use his key card for bills. That way he never needs to hand me cash.
His mum was sahm so he never knew what the big deal was, but for me it made a difference. I never wanted to feel like I had to justify my spending, and this way it's like my own wage too in a way.
HTH