I totally know the feeling. We are contributing to the house and we don't get 'paid' so we don't get that satisfaction where we think we deserve to buy things for ourselves. We are living and working overseas (well DH is working....I'm just on the 'dependants pass') so we are earning a fair bit there....but I STILL don't spend. I am thinking about our future. We are there earning big money for our future, so wants the sense in spending it!

Granted I don't have to worry about spending the money, but I do. I don't buy myself things....it's all for the kids really....oh and food! DH will still spend money guilt free on things I think he is wasting it on....so sometimes I DON'T feel guilty when I need something.

The one I hate the most is having to buy DH a present using 'his' money. That is when I will feel better once the kids are off to school and I can get myself a little part time job. Earning some of my own money again will give me that dependance I need.