Dp knows I'm not going to be cleaning up anything, or cooking anything after the birth! My local homebirthing network is really good with helping mummies who have given birth at home and I have a doula friend as well, whose help I could enlist. If I didn't have these things, I'd be tempted by the stay at the FBC! And DP knows I'm going to be tougher about letting people handle the new baby - my defenses were down right after DS's birth and I couldn't enforce my preferences, and DP had already intimated that he wouldn't help in that area if his rellos wanted 'a hold'. If he doesn't tell them this time, then I will have to be the mummy dragon who says 'no, you can't have a hold for a week or two' to his family. They might have amnesia about our establishment of BFing last time, but I don't and I don't want anything to compromise it this time! Plus, I'm going to have a sling from the start this time, so it will be harder to prise the baby from me, he he!! And I can always retreat to the sanctuary of my bedroom for a sudden need to 'rest' at home.
I'm going to make some signs for the door, anyway. DS and I can have an art project together to keep the visitors in check when the time comes