i'm so sorry you have experienced this newmum40.
Deb gives some great advice - I just want to add that you shouldn't feel you have to pursue this right away. I forget the length of time you have but I *think* it is a couple of years if you are considering legal action. If you are after a quick closure for yourself, then by all means pursue it right away, but don't feel pressured into believing that you have to pursue it immediatly.

Good luck and I hope you get the outcome you need.

MG