I guess we are each individuals and will feel things differently.

DD was a pretty rough birth - induced for 4 days before going into labour for 16 hrs that then ended in a emerg c-sect - but she was given to me right out of my tummy and we snuggled for
15-20 mins skin to skin while I was stiched up then she went with DH to meet grand parents and I went to recovery - she was then with me in recovery for the whole time and never left my room for the 4 days after her c-sect. I couldnt breast feed at all. so she was fully FF.

DS birth was a breeze compared - VBAC 10 hrs and 3rd degree tear - he again got skin to skin and never left my side for the 24 hrs we were in hossy. Still couldnt BF so FF again....

I feel the exact same bond with both - that they are def my babies and I know them already so well...even though their births were polar opposits!

I do now look at my tantruming 2.75 YO and think "who is this screaming child!!" LOL