Geoff and I did one run by Laney at Lotus Calmbirth...she is also a midwife at Monash which was a bonus. phooey to your hubby....We had a C-section and using the calmbirthing techniques i was able to bring my heart rate down from 160 to 90 in the space of about 15 seconds and maintain it there for the duration of the operation. This helped immensely with the panicked feelings and also minimised the surgical blood loss cos it wasnt pumping so fast so throw that fact at your hubby!!!! My obstetrician reckons it was one of the best things i could have done for the sake of both our healths.