In the delivery room?

**Kirley64** · September 8th, 2009, 11:19 AM

Hi Everyone,
So i'm pregnant with my first baby and I'm trying to think about what i want when it comes to having the baby - my best friend is due to have her 2nd any day... and have been talking to her alot....
And i'm trying to decide who i want in the room with me?
Who did you have?

**Olive** · September 8th, 2009, 11:20 AM

first time i only had DH, second time i had DH and my Doula

**Kazmar** · September 8th, 2009, 11:24 AM

1St time I had my mum and Dp. This time Im having Dp, my sister and my mum. But my mum will be alternating between looking after Annabelle and being in with me

**nellnell** · September 8th, 2009, 11:36 AM

Both times I had DH, but if my sister lived closer I would have probably wanted her at my second birth too.

**Inanna** · September 8th, 2009, 11:43 AM

I had my midwife and my husband the first time (independent midwife) & "sister"
The next birth - my SIL, husband, midwife, my "sister" and DD6
The next birth - my SIL, husband, midwife & my "sister" & DD8 & DS2
The next birth - my SIL, husband, midwife & DD10, DS4, DD15months.
My Imogen - my friend (who is an obs), my husband & a team of paeds and medical physicians... (high tech birth!)

It is important that you choose your attendants wisely and carefully. It's all about you and what you need. Think about what it is that's important to you and why. Good luck!

**Lulu** · September 8th, 2009, 11:44 AM

1 - ex and the worlds best midwife (pure luck)
2 - dp, sister and dd
3 - dp and Doula

**Kazmar** · September 8th, 2009, 11:46 AM

Oh and midwives too

**danniellabella** · September 8th, 2009, 11:50 AM

I had my mum & my DH...and about 10 doctors!

**Spring Angel** · September 8th, 2009, 11:54 AM

DS1 - DH,
DS2 - DH, Doula
With next bub will be DH and perhaps DS2 but going to wait to make that decision until a little later on.

**Rommy'sMummy** · September 8th, 2009, 12:02 PM

#1 DH, OB plus around 10 other specialists!
#2 (due in 6 days) DH, sister acting as Doula, OB and the hospt midwife BUT who knows how it will all happen...

**Kirley64** · September 8th, 2009, 12:03 PM

Thanks for your replies

.....
Did anyone not have their husband/partner.... i really want my DH there but he is very squirmish and i dont know if he is going to be able to be there.... i think he will try though....
i was tossing up between having my mum or my best friend.... thinking my best friend though cuz she will have been through labour twice and knows what i'll be going through for the support whereas my mum only had c-sections.
guess i'll have plenty of time to think

**Jennifer13** · September 8th, 2009, 02:36 PM

First time, DP, ob, anaesthetist and all others associated with a c/s - was a bit of a crowd really! We had a scheduled c/s due to placenta praevia.

Next birth I would like to have at home. We will have a m/w, doula, DP, my DD and my Mum (to look after DD). If DP doesn't get on board the idea of a home birth, then we'll still have a doula and possibly DD and my Mum.

SugarDust · September 8th, 2009, 11:53 AM

I had my DF and mum all 3 times except she missed the birth of Master L because she had gone down stairs to get DF some hot food and to have a smoke! She had been there for the whole birth of the other 2!!!

**PinkPalace** · September 8th, 2009, 02:18 PM

WIth DD i had:

2 midwives
1 en
1 student midwive
1 ambo
2 wardsmen
1 husband (he was at the birth not during labour)

(wasnt the way i would have planned it but that is the way it happened).

With DS
it was in my bedroom I had:
1 DH
1 Girlfriend (who was over to keep an ear out for DD who was asleep)
3 paramedics

lol

but happy to have the paramedics there for the actual birth (they werent their during the labour)

**Ca Plane Pour Moi** · September 8th, 2009, 07:55 PM

Stupidly, I had DH.

Next time (if there is one) I'm having my sister. And no DH if I can manage it.

You need someone who loves you, cares for you, listens to you and will stick up for you if someone wants to shove "hospital policy" on you. Or tell you that you're in pain when you're not.

DH believed the midwives when they said I was in pain rather than me, who was not only not in pain but chatting about the student midwife's studies and playing scrabble. My mother would be too flappy and fussy. My sister may not have given birth, but she's reliable and calm and wouldn't flap too much. She loves me enough to be there for me but isn't so crazy-love that she'd tell me to go against my needs because she thinks I may want to.

I also had a whole plethora of hospital staff the first time - can't even remember who they all were or what they were for. Next time, I may have a midwife IF that midwife is VERY, VERY lucky. I know the last two midwives I saw recently tried to talk me out of freebirthing but TBH if I don't feel comfortable with a midwife I'm not going to have one.

**joey123** · September 14th, 2009, 08:45 AM

Originally my huband and I decided that it would just be the 2 of us. I would have liked my mum there, but he didn't want her in the room as it was his 1st child (my 2nd) and I respected that.

However on the day, there was no way in the world I was going in without either one of them, and DH had no problems with this, I think he secretly encouraged it.

He is now greatful that she was there (my labour went FOREVER) and they are much closer now than they ever were.

My birth was **** (something I am still struggling to deal with), but if it wasn't, they wouldn't be as close as they are, so I am greatful for that.

GL with your birth. It will be an amazing experience, no matter how it turns out.