ummm... my XH saying "she'll have a c/s tomorrow thanks" without asking me first..... when he d@mn well KNEW I wanted a VBAC...thanks...
well hindsight is such a marvellous thing!
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ummm... my XH saying "she'll have a c/s tomorrow thanks" without asking me first..... when he d@mn well KNEW I wanted a VBAC...thanks...
well hindsight is such a marvellous thing!
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Everything my DH said & did was annoying! All 3 times!!
DD1, slept for a few hours. He tried rubbing my back, putting his hands on my face coz mum was busy - but his were warm, hers were nice & cold.
He ended up standing at the end of the bed watching coz he felt useless. Mum & MIL got me through it. He did try so hard. He's a pack a day smoker & only had about 2 in the 16 hours we were at the hossy.
With DD2 I nearly bit his thumb off. He saw me going for it just in time! He wasn't too bad this time. Held the shower & moved it from front to back during contractions.
With DS he only got there an hour & a half before he was born. He did have to drive 2 hours to get there. He was going to go to work when I told him my waters broke! I set him straight & told him to meet us at the hossy!!
Then he nearly passed out! WTF?? It wasn't even gory yet & he'd already seen 2 births! Must've been as nervous as me about finally getting his boy...
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When I was in transition, DH freaked out and asked if I wanted drugs. My SIL who is a MW was there and said, 'shhhh! It's too late now!!!' LOL. So after that he just crumbled and kept saying, 'I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.' Ha ha. Poor boy, it's like transition was harder for him than it was for me
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This thread is hilarious!
DH didn't say annoying things as such, but with Olivia's birth he kept drinking coffee then breathing coffee breath on me.......it sent me mental. I nearly punched him when he was trying to stoke my forehead.
With Charlie's birth, early on, he just reclined back and was reading a book. Annoyed the HELL out of me, so I spilt a cup of water on his book when he nipped to the loo, accidentially of course! LOL!
With Lexie's birth he had his sunnies still on his head & for some reason this ****e me off totally....I can remember screaming like a banshee at him "Take your @#$%^&* sunnies off" !??
I have just realised that all these things make me sound SO irrational......
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Sounds totally rational to me
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mine kept stealing the gas off me, even when i wanted it to help me through a contraction- he was acting like he was at a party and it was getting passed around iykwim?
then he passed out diaganolly across the bed from the gas, and snored for 4 hours.
the only annoying thing my dh did was when we were filling the pool he kept going on with it even though i desperatly want him to rub my back!
so i told him. im more important then the kettle when im having a contraction drop what you are doing and get to me asap.
after that he was perfect.
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Was there. Pretty much covers it.
I woke him up at 3am... he went to bed at 11, he didn't have enough sleep, he was tired (I'd been in labour since 7am the previous morning and had no sleep as I was in hospital overnight in labour alone).
He didn't feel too well, he couldn't cope, he had to sit behind me and the midwives kept checking HE was OK.
He agreed to an episiotomy without telling me even though I'd told him they were NOT doing that to me.
He called everyone and told them about DS while I was still in recovery so I didn't get to tell anyone; he told immediate family, my mother told everyone else, I did text a few people but that's not really telling people.
He's an arse. But that's not labour-room specific.
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Ryn hon, have you had any birth de-briefing? I know it was so traumatic for you, you'll carry it forever if it's not channelled sweets...
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Well he snored. When I was in transition and screaming for an epidural, he yelled at me "No you bl00dy well don't want an epidural!!!!", when all I wanted him to do was rub my back and tell me I can do it. Oh did I mention that he snored
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Several times, Kelly. But I'm more annoyed at him that he's away this weekend and is going to come home tired even though I've had DS all to myself all weekend and now he needs the car on Monday so I have to walk to work after running around like a mad thing all weekend, so I'm just mad at him anyway.
I'm pretty sure me kicking back in the rocker/recliner may have peeved meg off a little..
but oh.. it was SOOO comfortable. I considered stealing it at all hours of the morning, but didnt think i could carry it into the lift.
He kept saying 'It's ok' so eventually I hit him everytime he said it.
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I had a 14 induced labor which ended in a c/s. For the labor DH was great but during the c/s he kept looking over the screen I had in front of me and telling me 'Man, darl you should really see this. I can see your guts and everything!'.
A DF told me during her labor her DH was nearly kicked out cause he kept sucking on all the gas and ended up only leaving her air. When things got really bad and she was sucking away on the mask he let slip that the gas was used up and there was only air left. Apparently he coped one in the back of the head from the midwife for that one
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My DF was really fantastic during labour, I honestly don't think I have any complaints. It was my mum that gave me the irrits! But only because she kept saying things about drugs not relaising I was refusing because I wanted a natural birth, not because I was afraid
It was only planned the DP be there, I guess next time I will inform mum of my birth plan jic she ends up there again.
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Schmick!!! You're priceless! I was thinking - what kinda doofus does that - and now I know!!!
I was so surprised during my very long labour and subsequent c/s, my DP was, dare I say it, perfect. Wasn't expecting that at all...
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My DF refused to read anything about labour and birth and also refused to go to any antenatal classes so I was quite apprehensive about him being with me.
I was induced and while we were waiting he decided to flip through the book I had bought him, to read what he could about labour (peeved me off).
The damn doctors wouldn't put the amount of the drip up so I was stuck at 4cm for ages and then at 6cm when he asked to speak to the registrar outside. Lol my thought was OMG he is going to punch that doctor. When they came back in the doctor made vague noises but DF came out and asked me if i wanted a c/s (WTF). Luckily my g/f was my other support person and she told him it wouldn't be much longer and she was right. They had gone to get the head obs and by the time he got down there (15 mins max) I had gone from 6cm to 10cm and he told me to start pushing.
DF had absolutely no idea what to expect and certainly not the pain involved (read the book earlier d*ckhead) so he just held my hand and told me he loved me and that he would never put me through this again (yeah right lol).
The funny thing was he didn't want to watch her being born or to cut the cord but he did both, with a very white face mind you lol.
Sorry for the epic girls but the best advice is get them to study, study, study lol
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Oh wait I remember something that was REALLY annoying. I don't like talking on the phone at the best of times, and have made it clear to DH with both births that if he wants to ring the hospital up to let them know we are coming in (like you are supposed to) that I AM NOT talking on the phone. And both times DH has let the midwives on the phone bully him into putting me on the phone to tell them how I am progressing! Next time I am putting my foot down and just turning up to the hospital unannounced!!.
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