I agree, It is important to have someone there who can act as an advocate for you, eg. if you are totally against something and the middies suggest it and u (not totally with it due to labour) can't decide, this person can step in and say 'no, she never wanted that'. they can also be there incase something goes wrong to make those split second decisions to save your life. maybe see if there is a relative or friend that you really prefer, it could just be that u are not totally comfortable with that person. Remember, chances are you will be naked infront of this person, so choose carefully. HTH