I think you need to be strong, tell Dh to keep his ideas to himself and at least give you the chance!!! Its not like the option is'nt there, if you do need them?? Imagine if they said "NOPE YOU SAID YOU DID'NT WANT THEM< IT'S BAD LUCK, YOUR ON YOUR OWN NOW HONEY"

I reckon write up your birth plan, make sure your midwifes get it before you go into labour and have an additional plan with you JIC when you go into labour. I second the doula /trainee midwife or maybe you have a close friend who has given birth, who might be a good option.

I am guessing your DH if fearful of the pain you are going to go through and it would be a helpless feeling, if you reverse the situation maybe it would give an insite into what is going through his mind???
Goodluck have a chat to him and let him know it is'nt good for your self confidence to be told how little faith he has in your body and pain threshold.