Well on day 3 when i was sobbing my heart out for no apparant reason, everyone kept telling me ' its ok, you get abit emotional on day 3 " ofcourse i didnt believe them, all i knew is i was crying and i wanted my baby, right then and there. No one was allowed to hold her, touch her or anything. I look back now and i think...mayb that was my day 3 baby blues?!?!?
yep! I got a card from my nana and just burst into tears... one of my friends happen to be there and she just hugged me until I recovered. But by that afternoon I was feeling better.
Nothing too drastic for me, but I was definitely more emotional around day 3-ish. With DD1, I remember crying because all her undershirts were too big... With DD3, DH wanted to send the older two to his mother's house so I could rest, and I bawled when they left! I wanted all my babies at home!
But thankfully, my emotional/hormonal state didn't last too long. Before long we were back to "normal" again.
Strangely not with #1 - but with #2 I went a bit psycho when ds's newly washed clothes were ruined with yellow dye from a sleepsuit.
Dp put everything in the washing machine - BIG MISTAKE, but really I was crying and hysterical for a few hours.
Went slightly nuts at the chick at Baby Bunting when I returned the sleepsuit and made her replace EVERYTHING that was ruined, even though it didn't come from there
nothing real bad on day 3 - though day four (and the few days since) i've had emotional moments where i've just gone "pfft - bloody hormones!"
i think the worst was when Emerald had lost too much weight and they stopped us coming home, and forced my to express milk and then give her EBM just to prove to them that she was getting something - and the next morning (in the early hours) the middie barged in while E was crying and just got really nasty about things and said she'd go and weigh her to prove to me she wasn't gaining and that there way (formula) would help get her home. DH had stayed the night (he knew i wasn't coping with it real well) and accompanied them to the nursery to be weighed and while he was gone i just fell apart - i was doing all i could and it just seemed they were working against me! he came back to find me a sobbing mess cos i felt like i was failing her
apart from that, it's just been silly stuff - asking DH to come to bed early cos i miss being cuddled (and then tears falling down my face) - getting upset cos he went out last night and everyone got to talk to him about our girl and i was home alone and didn't get to share in that happiness (again, tears just fell!)
and then laying in bed cuddled up to him last night trying to explain how the hormone changes were messing with me and making me so teary - and ended up in tears again! aaaah, the joys!
I don't remember the day 3 baby blues with DD, but definately had it with DS.. My poor DH was getting ready to leave the hospital for the night and all I could do was cry and wail about how I wanted to go home with him and that I didnt want to be at the hospital anymore...
I never did get the 3 or 4 day baby blues, but with 1 and 2 I did have a bit of a meltdown once I had been home for few days - with #1 it was over BF issues and I just lost it because I was so terrified of the toe curling pain of BF that I demanded he go and get a tin of formula and I slept while he took DS to town to get some and I felt better after that. With #2 it was by day 10 and it was just purely out of tiredness - I was feeding her well over 12 times a day at that stage and she was still demanding more and I just didn't have anything left to give her. Again I felt better after a half decent sleep. I never had it with 3 and 4.
I was way worse with DS1, day 3 with him I didn't want to see anyone! Just was really teary and couldn't work out why, I cried as we didn't have a name for him, because I didn't have any of his own clothes at the hospital and he had to wear the little hospital gowns, such silly things! I remember also crying because everyone just wanted to see the new baby and didn't ask how I was Everyone is so excited when you're pregnant with your first that it's a bit of a shock when they seem to just ignore you and go straight to the baby
yup, definately!! I was an emotional wreck the whole time I was in hospital, drugged up to the eyeballs, felt abandoned (dp didnt stay at hossy with me overnight) was scared I wasn't "connecting" with bubs, felt like a failure from having c section etc....I could go on but I wont! I look back now, and think gee, it wasn't really that bad, but at the time....
but thats hormones for you!
Yep...i posted something similar in the week. Harry was 4 days i think when i had my meltdown. I could prob cry now at the drop of a hat......i think the sleep depo has a huge amount to do with it. Yesterday i felt good, had a reasonable amount of sleep. Today i feel crap, dont want anyone to talk to me, dreading tonight.....but havent cried yet.
dont think i got it with DS... will be interesting to see with this one.
MBear - sending you a special hug. wish i could come help you (though what i would do with 4 kids i dont know LOL!
I did with DS1 in a huge way, but not with DS2. Just generallly teary, of an evening for the first week most days, less often after.
I think coming home from hospital early this time made a difference.
Similar to BG, DD had lost 12% of her body weight and I was so emotional, wanting to go home but being held back because of my "failings". In the end, my milk had just come in a bit late and everything was fine, we didn't have to supplement and I went home that afternoon but I was so hysterical and falling to pieces that morning.
Yep! Really bad! I remember at the hospital, when the midwives would change shift and the new one would come in to see how everything was, I'd just burst into tears!! There was nothing wrong, just hormones!
I have had the baby blues both times with my babies the night that I left hospital (which was day 1 with DD and day 2 with DS). I think I just found it overwhelming that all of the excitement of the baby arriving and everyone meeting them was over and I had to learn to look after them and adjust life to meet the needs of my new baby.
I think I also found it difficult because I am a social person and like having people around and I found that people come to meet the baby and then steer clear for a couple of weeks. People were also very surprised if I ever left the house in those early weeks . . . but I needed to get out and see the the world was still turning. I was also too tired to have lots of visitors, especially after DD and that bummed me out a bit as well.
With DD my baby blues lasted about a week. With DS they only lasted a day. I found giving myself things to look forward to with DS helped to get me out of it a bit. I also had adjusted to the idea of being a mummy by the time DS was born and did not feel so out of my depth. I think I was also a bit shell shocked from labour after DD. I knew more of what to expect with DS . . . even as far as the baby blues go.
I don't remember getting them. I remember bawling on the third day with DD2 but that was because the hospital bed was killing me and I was begging for pain killers for my back! But other than that, don't recall being overly emotional with any. My hormones tend to get back on track very quickly. I started out bfing all of them and got my period back 1 month later without fail.
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Did you get the day 3 baby blues?
With DD3, DH wanted to send the older two to his mother's house so I could rest, and I bawled when they left! I wanted all my babies at home!
Everyone is so excited when you're pregnant with your first that it's a bit of a shock when they seem to just ignore you and go straight to the baby
... A VERY bad day!
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