Thanks for your reply Christy & IK, IK, The info you have posted about your own expereince has just mad eme realise that I could have done that with out the hypnobirthing stuff. But as you said the hypnobirthing teaches you to let go & let your body do what its meant to do.
I think part of my troubles is that DH & my instructor (luckily for me, a friend so I didn't have to pay) both think that I am not "open" enough to be able to do it. I questioned everything. I do question things, but to help me understand it better, not so I can fob it off. I think DH thinks it can only be done by following the "rules" down to a T. But there are so many aspects that just don't sit well with me. In a way, even the instructor was this way. When I think about it. I think it is them who are closed minded about it all. In the way that neither of them are going to be able to experience it first hand. So all they have to go off is what the manual says.
I can acheive deep breathing etc. I think I will do a lot better then what they are giving me credit for. DH is supportive, but he says he knows me to well & how I was with my 1st 2. This just gives me more insentive to prove him wrong.