If you had a very long pregnancy....

[Mildez]

Me 36+3 = 3.64
37+5 = 3.98

As a middy I find most of the times big baby = average or no bigger then the 4kilo mark. I cared for a lady who they said her bub was huge (expecting the 5kilo mark) and out he came all 3kilos of him. Still remember a lady who the Ob absolutely insisted on her having a c/s for big baby. I know he threatened her with a variety of things. Eventually she agreed but was very very unhappy about it and bub was 6.6kilos just prior to 38weeks. She had previously had 3 NVD all over 5kilos but no4 was 1.5kilos bigger then the other 3.

[onthefly]

To be fair, her situation is as much a product of the 'system' as of her own choices. It's her life, her birth, she has to live with it.
Anyway, try not to slap her

[Melbournemumma]

I had ds1 at 40+6 and he was 4.5 and ds2 at 38+5 and he was 4.035 so even early mine are big

[Taurean]

My friend just had her second baby this week at 40+5 (induced at a private hospital) and she was 3.3kg so nope, not big at all! No scaremongering for her either, she just wanted her out as she'd had a lot of pre labour and was over it.

[Phteven]

Both my boys went one week over their EDDs.
There was a big difference in their birth weights (almost 1kg) but since they both had the same gestation it couldn't have been due to the length of my pregnancy.

[meow]

Pretty much yes

First: Born 40 weeks at 4300gm
Second: Born 41 weeks at 4730gm
Both were natural births.

When I first booked into the birth centre with the second I was told I wouldn't have to see an OB to be approved as "low risk" given my previous natural labour. But then when an OB had to sign off they flagged my file that I had to have an OB appointment before being approved. I never went to that appointment as I was planning a homebirth anyway but I suspect the OB wanted to talk about my "big baby" and I do wonder if they would have wanted to cap my allowed gestation under "low risk" and not let me birth in the birth centre past a certain date due to "big baby" risks... whatever those risks are??

[princesswalkee]

I am pregnant with my second child but my first was expected to be about 7.5 pound, i had him at 40+10 and he was 6 pound 13 so 3090g, and my partner and i are not exactly small and were both 8 pound babies so really its jsut luck of the draw

[raffy]

I went 40+12 and ds was only 3.67kg and 52.5cm long

[Crystalwings]

Pretty much yes

First: Born 40 weeks at 4300gm
Second: Born 41 weeks at 4730gm
Both were natural births.

When I first booked into the birth centre with the second I was told I wouldn't have to see an OB to be approved as "low risk" given my previous natural labour. But then when an OB had to sign off they flagged my file that I had to have an OB appointment before being approved. I never went to that appointment as I was planning a homebirth anyway but I suspect the OB wanted to talk about my "big baby" and I do wonder if they would have wanted to cap my allowed gestation under "low risk" and not let me birth in the birth centre past a certain date due to "big baby" risks... whatever those risks are??

I think there are risks associated with big babies. things like shoulder dystocia are a huge risk to baby and mother. My 10lb7 bub had shoulder dystocia, got stuck, inhaled fluid on her breathing problems and fluid on her lungs and ended up in SCN on a drip, chest xrays etc. Obs said she could have died etc. it was scary stuff. I sustained a third degree tear and am still recovering almost 6mths on. yeah sure tearing can happen with any size baby but i think it is naive to say there aren't more risks with big babies.

[meow]

Shoulder dystocia and tearing do happen with any size baby. I think they have more to do with position of mum and baby during birth.

[Fleur]

All mine were roughly 40+10

3.9kg / 8lb10
4.4kg / 9lb13
4.1kg / 8lb13
4.7kg / 10lb8

I can't fit enough of the little dude in here to convey how I feel. She truly believes that this baby will be big. She truly believes that big baby = bad birth. She WILL go dutifully into that hospital on B-day and succumb to the cascade of interventions again. She will blame the midwives/hospital/birth experience/size of the baby again. She will end up in tears over it later, again.

She's not my friend. She is a member of the family I married into. The one who punched my husband in the face over our parenting choices. This baby's imminent arrival is stressing the pants off me. Part of me wants to save her from this, to shake her by the shoulders and say "it doesn't have to be that way!" But if she gets violent over me breastfeeding twice in an hour, I don't think that will be received favourably The other part of me says "Fine. Go. Follow orders, and get what you deserve."

I'm sure that makes me sound horrible. But I have to get it out.

It sounds really frustrating for you.

[meow]

I missed your second post audax. It's SO frustrating. I have GOOD friends debrief their disappointing births to be and still make decisions that are not in line with their optimal birth second time around. I care deeply about these women and want to take over and tell them what to do but but I can't. TBH I generally don't get into big discussions about their second births. I just can't do it. We need debiefing for the debriefers sometimes!