If you had a very long pregnancy....

[meow]

Shoulder dystocia and tearing do happen with any size baby. I think they have more to do with position of mum and baby during birth.

[Fleur]

All mine were roughly 40+10

3.9kg / 8lb10
4.4kg / 9lb13
4.1kg / 8lb13
4.7kg / 10lb8

I can't fit enough of the little dude in here to convey how I feel. She truly believes that this baby will be big. She truly believes that big baby = bad birth. She WILL go dutifully into that hospital on B-day and succumb to the cascade of interventions again. She will blame the midwives/hospital/birth experience/size of the baby again. She will end up in tears over it later, again.

She's not my friend. She is a member of the family I married into. The one who punched my husband in the face over our parenting choices. This baby's imminent arrival is stressing the pants off me. Part of me wants to save her from this, to shake her by the shoulders and say "it doesn't have to be that way!" But if she gets violent over me breastfeeding twice in an hour, I don't think that will be received favourably The other part of me says "Fine. Go. Follow orders, and get what you deserve."

I'm sure that makes me sound horrible. But I have to get it out.

It sounds really frustrating for you.