I've had an absolute ****ter of a day so I probably shouldn't reply, but I will because I don't want to have this compounding with the crap I already am dealing with here...

Why do people that dare mention the word c-section get an absolute pasting.
Can you show me an example?

I have NEVER said that any birth is superior. I firmly believe that no matter how your baby is born, it is a birth, in any shape or fashion. I have supported many different births from natural to emergency caesar and do you know what? All were just as good and successful as the other, because we did everything we possibly could, the couples were informed and that's all that mattered.

I think all of these feelings are coming up because the birth of those commenting hasn't properly been de-briefed or dealt with. If you feel bad about angry about things which are not even directed at you or said in poor taste, that's an emotion you are creating in yourself about something - it would not bother you if you had dealt with it. Feelings happen for a reason.

I understand how you feel in that I get the ****s on here trying to post how I like to birth and parent, even pass on knowledge which I feel lucky enough to know about, yet I get the third degree from others saying things like, nah epidurals rock, or some horror vaginal birth so I needed a caesar - it seems people are trying to make themselves feel better about things at other peoples cost. It's not a friggen competition. I see others post too about wanting natural births or gentle parenting yet of course there's always a hoard to talk about routines and experts books. Why???? If someone is after tips on how they can best manage without epidurals etc WHY can I not talk about BOTH the pros and cons without having to read my post a million times and worry about offending people?

Yes this is a gentle site, I find things that I like to read or interest me like the poem the other day and I posted it - you see it as an attack on caesars, doctors, the medical profession - yet I see it as a poem beautifully illustrating the power and strength of woman and it made me feel good about myself. I thought this would be nice to share.

I am excited about what I have learnt over the last year and a bit, I wish I had known it before so I go nuts wanting to share it with everyone else in the hope I can excite them too with something new, more knowledge or more options.

I can't seem to make all of you happy which is impossible anyway, gees I have even posted caesarean articles on the main site which are non biased and I am writing more to help people understand what it's like to have to choose a caesarean.

So if you have a problem with how I run this site, email me privately - I don't appreciate public 'discussions' clearly aimed at me and how I run the place. I think there has been a great deal of over reaction. If you prefer a site where you can all run wild and I will offer no suggestions or guidance, then just say the word and I will keep my opinions to myself. Will be much easier for me time wise so it doesn't bother me.