It's a good idea, but if we are lucky enough to get a care provider who actually cares, what then? I mean, what will they do? Knowing what my care was like (and what my family is like when I tried to discuss this with my mother), just tell me I should be grateful he's alive and get over myself - or tell me it's normal. It's four months ago and I'm still having the nightmares and can't stop crying or honestly feel my son is mine.