Julie, I think wht you have so far is great. I would have loved to hve something like that after my daughters birth.. if only just to think everything through and get my head around everything. I meaan, I didnt hve massively traumatic birth experience, but I do remember not being told wht was going on when they called two obs and another midwife into the room and they all started talking about my babys heart rate and what they were going to do for me, just far enough and quiet enough away that I couldnt quite hear them.. so i felt left out, iykwim? I hd a huge problem with that and I am the type of person that stews over things, so that whole aspect really still annoys me. To be honest though, I have been thinking about it more and more often in the last 2 months or so, so I think Ryns idea of doing this after 3 months is good. Perhaps you could get the questionnire while still in hospital (when everything is still fresh in your mind?) and then schedule and appointment for 3 months time to sit down and talk about it if you feel the need to. Thing is though, it woudl probably be good to do something in the couple days after as well so if you hve questions you cn ask your caregiver as I doubt they'd remember you 3 or 4 months later.

Anyhow, I especially like some of the Q's in the first part like, 'how do you feel about your birth now", "did the experience change you in any way" and the ones bout the hardest/worst and best parts of birth. The way I felt about my dughters birth in the days after it is so differnt to the way I feel about it now. After my daughters birth, as I was leaving the birth suite, the midwife asked "are you happy with your birth"... What a dumb time to ask a question like that!! It ws only a couple of hours after her birth, I was still on a high and hadnt had the time to process everything yet, so I think timing of the debreif is important too.

I like the part about the feedbck forthe caregivers. I have quite a few things to say about the care I recieved, some good things, some bad things.

I think I am just still not over it, even though in comparison to other peoples expeiences it probably wasnt all that bad. I suppose its all relative though. Some people cope with things much better than others...

ok I am just rambling now...

Ok thats ll for now. I might thnk bout it some more later on nd if I can think of anything good to dd I will come bck and ramble some mroe.