TBH I don't really have any advice... More just wanted to say that I know what you mean about people saying "just deal with it" etc. Being pg does not mean we have to bare ridiculous pain and uncomfort abd be ok with it!!!! It sounds like your pain is not normal and like you need a professional who will support you and try to help not just discourage you and make you feel like crap!!! I'm sorry that it's happening :hugs:

Maybe with the IM, if you are really unsure you should cancel now? It's such a hard choice too knowing what to do is there an option of a birth centre at your hospital ? Usually they are much more like homebirth than a delivery suite... I am using the BC at my hospital and only have to stay in 4-6hrs, have a massive bath for waterbirth etc. Is that an option for you?

And yes, $3500 is a lot of money!!! I understand why this choice is so hard!!

Good luck n sorry I can't help more!!