Well done my love on deflecting all of that behaviour!

Unfortunately some can get very controlling & over functioning in their roles... I have seen this happen a lot too.

I am so happy you are getting care that you are comfortable with now. So, is your mother still going to be present for the birth of your baby? If so honey you either need really really strong boundaries or get someone else. I would hate to see her getting antsy because she's not running the show & instilling fear in you.

Don't think about this baby's size. You have a midwife that is happy with how things are. Looking at a belly is no way to tell the size of a baby... Women very very rarely grow a baby too big for their body unless there is an illness like GD.

You have set yourself up well for your birth, accessed care you are comfortable with... Just iron this stuff out with your mother...

Remember, she loves you - however that doen't mean she knows your body better than you do. She could be a wonderful enhancement to your labour but you need for her to support your other child not direct your labour... Big cuddles darling