Oh brother!

I am in awe of your patience right now!!! Far out it sounds like it is a very good decision you made to choose other care providers. It sounds as though your mum is upset that she isn't going to be your care provider and its sounds like she trying to get her way back in there...bringing everything "just in case" and offering to break your waters, I know she is qualified but offering to do this when she isn't your care provider etc etc just seems a little strange, it sounds like she is hoping you say yes and that things might progress fast or she can convince you to stay home and not call you im or something.

It sounds as though you have a great birth plan and will have a wonderful labour. I would suggest one thing though, seeing as the ice has been broken I would sit down and go through some guidelines for when you do go into labour (I am assuming she is staying with you and going to watch your ds while you are in labour)

I think it is soo sooo important who you have around you when in labour and even though now you can handle her comments when you are in labour comments like these might really get to you and the idea of having ARM and moving things along might seem more appealing, if you don't want this kind of thing to happen I would talk to her in advance. Maybe you could say I will be up this end of the house, bathroom, bedroom etc please stay down the other end, or I don't want you to talk to/touch me while I am in labour etc etc etc

Wishing you a ewonderful labour and birth