Even if people get upset, they will get over it. Just say No, was the advice given to me by the ladies at my work. I have no intention of having people over for weeks after the birth. My mum will probably be the only one, only becuase it won't be a "visit" she would generally just help out, cook dinner, do washing and things not expect to be entertained.

I feel terrible for you that they were all so selfish so soon after the babies birth to be over imposing themselves on you. You poor thing.

There is also a whooping couch epidemic currently so anyone unvaccinated is going to be told no, on the advice of my GP who says it's too risky at the moment.

You don't have to tell anyone if your mum comes to visit sooner. Your baby, your family your choice imo. You never get that time back when they are little.