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That is a lot of people!
What I find interesting is that some people would welcome having everyone over at once upon getting home, or they want their space for a while. Im like you, I want some space after birth, preferably not seeing anyone at all including parents or the in-laws for a while.
I think everyone understands why the mother and father want the space. But I think where some people become offended is when certain people are excluded from seeing whilst others arent invited (especially when they consider your family to be so important to them). Another area where people can be offended is the timeframe (shorter space of time everyone understands, but the longer the time frame the more people seem to be offended).

I really like the idea of having a meet the baby bbq or afternoon tea idea. But I would send out the invites before you give birth, that way you can mention on the invite that you will be having some special family time after birth etc but cant wait for everyone to meet your new arrival at the bbq/afternoon tea...