Magic,

I'll email you, my sweet, about SJOG. I did their maternity tour when I was only 15 weeks and now wish I'd done it now, when labour seems more real to me. I may call them and try to book in for another one.

Tania, I agree with you completely. I suspect that DH will need someone there for him, but it doesn't seem to be a subject he's comfortable with talking about, which of course, heightens my discomfort even more. When I sat down with him to talk about my birth plan, he went pale and looked like he was going to pass out when I started talking about preferring to tear than having an episiotomy. I think that's when the first alarm bells rang. I will try to broach the subject with him again (including sending him the link you provided, Kelly) and pray he at least thinks about it.

I think when you're married to a man who believes it's only a matter of resolve to achieve success in anything he does, you can expect him to be loath to admit he would need someone else. I honestly believe that if I had a doula or other support person there, for me as well as to support DH, then my worries about a hospital birth may ease.

love
sushee

PS Kelly, I didn't even read your original post! Lol!