Ourlux, your not being fussy about the distance. I have 1hr to travel and its not ideal, but out here its what you have to put up with sadly. I think you would find though that if you had a repeat of DS's birth where you were pushing for ages (which I don't think you will be this time because you've BTDT) and were asking for the tongs again that yeah, maybe they would get them out, but if they didn't think there was a need for it, they wont just because a delirious birthing woman asks them too .

If you have a birth plan and go through it with them, then they will be mindful of that when the time comes and not force anything on you that you were adamant you didn't want. And if you had a doula or a midwife with you, she would leave if you asked her to, they are there to support you but they also understand that you may need to do it with only your DH too.