I definitely had this with my first pregnancy! it was so demoralising and I felt that it left very little space for me to talk about my wishes for the birth as I didnt want those that had 'gone before me' to roll their eyes or give me the Big Phat "i told you so" scenario if it did end up being that way ITMS.

Thankfully, I was able to cut everyone off at the pass the second time around when i told people that I was having a homebirth. they were all too shocked and horrified to speak actually