I say if you feel your DD will be ok, then go for it! I would love Oskar to be there for this one, we will see what happens as things get closer and decide then. We may have no option anyway as we don't have family nearby to come and look after him. I think being scared is something we can "instill" if that makes sense?? For example, thunder... Oskar thinks it's funny and laughs because of the way we've always been with him about it and not made it to be a big thing but made it a funny or fun thing. They do understand a LOT more than we give them credit for! All the best hun!