Good Luck Tara - i hope you can get some closure and look forward to the birth of this beautiful baby and by the sounds of it - good riddance to bad rubbish is what i can say about your XH - hope that's not too harsh but he sounded like a completely a-hole.

Just wanted to add - i went completely deaf in my labour - i could only hear 2 people in the room - 1 being my husband the other being the crazy irish midwife - everyone else was completely blocked out - i had to ask DH to tell me what was being said - that was a totally bizarre feeling also - but nothing compared to what you have unfortunately experienced.

Good luck once again