Gigi i just wanted to send you my good thoughts and congratulations on birthing your daughter.
I had a natural homebirth and i know how difficult it can be to decide to try for, and to plan for and arrange that kind of birth. I know the learning involved, the way some people react when you tell them your plans, the problems you can face within the medical community and the general stress it can put on you. You were not only strong enough to make those decisions but to deal with it when fate took your choices away from you. Not only did you strive for what you believed was best, you continued to fight for your child when your plan was snatched from you.
You experienced a LONG labour - you DID it, that circumstances conspired against you delivering is neither here nor there. YOU laboured for your child. My GOD woman! 29 HOURS!
When you had to, at a time when i was pretty much unwilling to do anything but moo, you showed the greatest strength a mother can have, flexibility, and let go of everything you'd planned because you loved your unborn child and wanted what was best for her, and went to hospital.
In hospital you braved the touch of strangers and intervention you hadn't wanted in order that your child could have a chance.
You underwent surgery for your baby's life. In delivering her you relinquished EVERYTHING to save her life AND YOU DID.
A mother is not a person who produces her baby from her vagina, a mother is a woman who will endure anything, face anything, change everything, for the good of her baby. You're more a mother than i was at my baby's birth - i got the birth my way and my sacrifices all came later on.
On top of the incredible trauma your experience must have caused, you continued to be a wonderful mother, fighting to feed her and let her know you were there for her with skin to skin.
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