I was adamant with DS that i was going to have DD present at birth, she would of been 2yrs 9 months old at the time. I talked in depth with DH about it and we thought that it would be a good idea so we would let the hospital know so they were prepared.
My ob STRONGLY advised against it and this being that she would be to traumatised with seeing mum in pain and not understanding what was going on. I also listened to the midwives opionions and they had the same thoughts as the ob.
Hence we changed our minds and we are glad that we did. Even though the labour was short and uncomplicated i think its nice for husband and wife to have that one on one time with their new family member and enjoy each other for just a little while. As soon as we were back at the room though i insisted that he go get DD so she could meet her new brother.
I was only in for one night so it wasnt so bad for her. The fact that mummy wasnt home though even for that one night distressed her but im still glad that we didnt take her in.

She will be 4yrs 3 months when this one is born and im still not going to bring her in. She remembers from when DS was born and talks about the two of them staying with Nannan while i have the baby so that makes it easier. DS will be the problem this time i think cause he will only be 18mths. Hopefully it will only be for the night again as im keen to get home and get on with my family.

Each to there own i think, do whats comfortable with you and talk to your partner and Ob in length so you are prepared as well as your DD. Im sure your mother would make it only being 4 hours away to so if you decided not to take DD id be ringing your mother as soon as you get those niggly feelings. Im sure she wont mind. Good luck