thanks all, was feeling pretty lost earlier! id love to get a doula but we cant really afford it at the moment, might look into a student one or something, i think it would help as DH says he feels terrified being my only support person, and we have DD this time too...although i think we have a friend who is coming to help with her. Dont really have any close friends here that i would want in the birth with me or who im close enough too to even discus birth with.

Kasbah:Thanks so much for the book, i will get it ASAP and have a good read. DH just automatically thinks that every medical procedure is benificial and every doctor has MY best interests at heart, unfortunatley he cant see that this might not always be the case!