Is what I said stupid?

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'Big' babies do not hurt any more than average sized babies. I have done both - I had two 7lb babies and then my third was 9lb. I can definitely say that my first birth hurt a lot less than the next two - but that is only because I had an epidural! Other than that, the pain was not worse with my third than my second. Labour hurts - full stop. But I would not be looking at a c/s as a way of avoiding the pain, after all it is major abdominal surgery - hardly pain free.

sg- I don't think what you said was silly, labour pain is productive pain. But it still hurts like hell - in a way that you won't understand until you experience it yourself (sorry if that sounds patronising, I don't mean it to, it's just that it's true) - and when you are in the thick of it, there will be a point where all you want is for it to stop. I guess these days, with all the pain relief options available to us, many women feel like labour pain is unnecessary, even though it is productive - why make yourself a martyr if you can have an epidural and feel nothing?

ETA - I agree with Jellybean, there is too much fear about vaginal birth. I do find it hard to understand how someone can be less afraid of having major surgery while they are awake, than of having their body do what it is designed to do and give birth vaginally. I am not saying that it's wrong to feel that way, I just don't understand it myself.