Before i go into details i would like to state a few things as i realise this is a heated topic! ANd i would also like to state that i am going to tell the story of a very traumatic experience with my first birth, i do NOT wish to put women off having a VB nor scaremonger so please DONT read on if you dont wish to know what i went through and if you do please realise that my VB is not how VB usually goes. I totally advocate natural birth.
Also I realise that VB VS CS is a very heated topic i dont want to get into risk factors etc, please know that i have done my homework and am well aware of the stats. I really dont want any negative discussion in here i truly want a heart felt desicion on what you would do if you were in MY situation. There are alot of ladies who have wonderful, positive birth experiences and i totally would appreciate what you have to say, i would just ask that for this instence you put your own experience aside and truly aprreciate how fearful and awful my experience was.
Now if i havent scared everyone off this is my story:
My son was induced at 14 days past his due date adn still showing no signs of wanting to enter the world, i started having contractions at 7.30pm and was fine till the next morning when i was taken up to the birthing suite, i was soon put on oxytocin and offered an epidural once the very hard core contractions started from the drip, it took 3 goes to get the epidural in due to my scoliosis, again i managed quite nicely, not sure why but i was still very aware of contractions and got up to go to the loo so not sure what the epi was doing. A bit later my BP started to drop and they had to put a fluid drip in and not long after that DS started having distress and ob was called and all too quickly an episotomy, vacumn extraction, DS was also posterior and had no intention of changing. He was given to me to hold and as soon as i had him in my arms he was taken away again as hewasnt breathing properly. DS was born at 12.30 and i left the birthing suite at 5pm all the time i was being stitched and restiched as the 3rd degree tear had gone through to my rectum. The whole time they were trying to figure out why DS wasnt breathing properly, when i finally got down to special care i found out he had a punctured lung. he spent 3 days in a humdi ccrib and i expressed milk for him. The following weeks included infections, cystitis, thrush and finally the removal of the stiches as they felt they were imparing the healing. When it did heal i had to have skin tags burnt off as it hadnt healed together properly. It was almost a year to fully recover and get back to normal. I am pregnant again whcih has taken a very long time and fertility treatment including an ectopic in the meantime, but in that time i have spoke to the ob who birthed my son, the ob who looked after me when i had my ectopic and now the ob i have for this child, they have all told me a CS is the best option, the reason being a very short perineal area. My current ob even with all my history agreed to let me have a VB until she examined me and then said she really wouldnt recommend it.
I have researched this topic to death (and have had some help, thanks Hoobley ) but it seem the figures just stack up, either way seems to come with there own set of risks and i really couldnt bear to go through what i did before, so i know if the ob said induction i would definately opt for a CS. So really i i would just love some opnions (not stats) what would you do a Vb or and elective CS? Thank you so much if youve taken the time to read this very long post.