scooby, what an emotional decision you have to make.
I have 8 years between my DD and DS. DD was a hugely emotional emergency c/s for me, and even now, almost 9 years later on, it still gets me angry and upset. I had wanted so desperately to have a VBAC this time round, got my medical records and took to our OB, who I had heard was VBAC friendly, and he said a big NO and I should have a c/s.
The day of our planned c/s (at 39 weeks) I rocked up to the hospital to book in, only to find that I was 8cms dilated! My OB checked me over (my first physical exam with him) and he said he thought i might be able to try a VBAC if I wanted. They couldn't do a c/s yet, as there were no paed for bub, so I went to the labour ward. A couple of hours later they found a paed. and called to see if I wanted to have the c/s or attempt a VBAC.

I was at a complete loss. I was being handed the opportunity to attempt the VBAC I had wanted so much, but I was absolutely **** scared it would end up the same way as my DD's birth, so I chose the c/s. I knew at that moment that if my VBAC ended up being a c/s, that I wouldn't be able to deal with it emotionally.
For me, I hadn't felt support from my DH or OB during my pregnancy for a VBAC, so why should I believe the pair of them in the labour room when they were saying how they thought I could now do it?

In the end, it came down to my emotions at that moment in time, and it was such a huge decision to make. I hope you can get some wonderful answers and guidance here to help you make your decision...goodluck with it all

Nic