Before i go into details i would like to state a few things as i realise this is a heated topic! ANd i would also like to state that i am going to tell the story of a very traumatic experience with my first birth, i do NOT wish to put women off having a VB nor scaremonger so please DONT read on if you dont wish to know what i went through and if you do please realise that my VB is not how VB usually goes. I totally advocate natural birth.
Also I realise that VB VS CS is a very heated topic i dont want to get into risk factors etc, please know that i have done my homework and am well aware of the stats. I really dont want any negative discussion in here i truly want a heart felt desicion on what you would do if you were in MY situation. There are alot of ladies who have wonderful, positive birth experiences and i totally would appreciate what you have to say, i would just ask that for this instence you put your own experience aside and truly aprreciate how fearful and awful my experience was.
Now if i havent scared everyone off this is my story:
My son was induced at 14 days past his due date adn still showing no signs of wanting to enter the world, i started having contractions at 7.30pm and was fine till the next morning when i was taken up to the birthing suite, i was soon put on oxytocin and offered an epidural once the very hard core contractions started from the drip, it took 3 goes to get the epidural in due to my scoliosis, again i managed quite nicely, not sure why but i was still very aware of contractions and got up to go to the loo so not sure what the epi was doing. A bit later my BP started to drop and they had to put a fluid drip in and not long after that DS started having distress and ob was called and all too quickly an episotomy, vacumn extraction, DS was also posterior and had no intention of changing. He was given to me to hold and as soon as i had him in my arms he was taken away again as hewasnt breathing properly. DS was born at 12.30 and i left the birthing suite at 5pm all the time i was being stitched and restiched as the 3rd degree tear had gone through to my rectum. The whole time they were trying to figure out why DS wasnt breathing properly, when i finally got down to special care i found out he had a punctured lung. he spent 3 days in a humdi ccrib and i expressed milk for him. The following weeks included infections, cystitis, thrush and finally the removal of the stiches as they felt they were imparing the healing. When it did heal i had to have skin tags burnt off as it hadnt healed together properly. It was almost a year to fully recover and get back to normal. I am pregnant again whcih has taken a very long time and fertility treatment including an ectopic in the meantime, but in that time i have spoke to the ob who birthed my son, the ob who looked after me when i had my ectopic and now the ob i have for this child, they have all told me a CS is the best option, the reason being a very short perineal area. My current ob even with all my history agreed to let me have a VB until she examined me and then said she really wouldnt recommend it.
I have researched this topic to death (and have had some help, thanks Hoobley ) but it seem the figures just stack up, either way seems to come with there own set of risks and i really couldnt bear to go through what i did before, so i know if the ob said induction i would definately opt for a CS. So really i i would just love some opnions (not stats) what would you do a Vb or and elective CS? Thank you so much if youve taken the time to read this very long post.
oh scooby that is traumatic what you have been through
I will give you my opinion only as I had similar issues to deal with. With my first I was 14 days post EDD with no signs of things moving along, in fact I went in for induction with gels & they couldn't do it as she was no where near the cervix. 2 days later she was and I was induced with gels, overnight I started having small contractions and movement, in the morning I was put on a drip and felt like I was hit by a truck. It was horrid, I wound up with an epidural which dropped my bp really low, they had to turn the epi off and I was feeling contractions but unable to move for hours. Lucky for me, DD1 was going okay. After 4 hours of playing with the epi & sintocin things stopped moving, after 4 more hours I was asked to have a c/s. 4 hours later I had one. The c/s was.... so traumatic after all the issues with an induced labour and the epidural not on, when the spinal went in my bp dropped again. I felt the first 4 minutes of the c/s and went into shock.
What happened to both of us is traumatic, so it obviously sways our decisions. The second time around I fought kicking and screaming for a natural birth. Jovie was 11 days post EDD and an empowered VBAC, not entirely naturalas I had pethadine early on to ward off feelings of panic because of the past birth.
All I can say is research for yourself & get yourself a birth advocate, for whatever you choose.
Hi Scooby
I'm still waiting for my baby so my two cents may not be worth a great deal. But I think that you have done all the research and looked at all the risks, you have to ask yourself which risks you feel you can live with this time around. All the options have risks and downsides, and you have to decide which option you can feel the most comfortable and safe with.
Personally (while as I said I don't have personal experience yet) this is one of my worst birth fears, so if it was me in your shoes, I think I would choose the cs. That is just what I think would make me feel safer if I was in your position.
Ask yourself what you think you can feel safe with, and then don't let anyone sway you. I have seen some of your other threads get hijacked with the whole cs v vb debate and I'm sorry people can't seem to understand what you're asking.
but I think you're very brave and I wish you all the best with whatever you decide.
Scooby love, that's a really traumatic situation and a really difficult choice.
What would I do? I'd opt for a CS over another induction, but maybe book it for 40-41w? Can you do that? I'd be really scared of tearing again with a "big" baby.
I know for me I'm not going anywhere near a hospital again: if I had to then I'd either lock the door and not let the midwives/obs in or I'd just go straight for a CS.
Scooby love,do what you most feel comfortable with,but after all the problems of what you went through,I would strongly consider the CS, I`ve had four vg births, not all good experiences either,but my fifth bub had to be a CS,I?m now ever so glad I listened to my OB. Good luck hun.
scooby, what an emotional decision you have to make.
I have 8 years between my DD and DS. DD was a hugely emotional emergency c/s for me, and even now, almost 9 years later on, it still gets me angry and upset. I had wanted so desperately to have a VBAC this time round, got my medical records and took to our OB, who I had heard was VBAC friendly, and he said a big NO and I should have a c/s.
The day of our planned c/s (at 39 weeks) I rocked up to the hospital to book in, only to find that I was 8cms dilated! My OB checked me over (my first physical exam with him) and he said he thought i might be able to try a VBAC if I wanted. They couldn't do a c/s yet, as there were no paed for bub, so I went to the labour ward. A couple of hours later they found a paed. and called to see if I wanted to have the c/s or attempt a VBAC.
I was at a complete loss. I was being handed the opportunity to attempt the VBAC I had wanted so much, but I was absolutely **** scared it would end up the same way as my DD's birth, so I chose the c/s. I knew at that moment that if my VBAC ended up being a c/s, that I wouldn't be able to deal with it emotionally.
For me, I hadn't felt support from my DH or OB during my pregnancy for a VBAC, so why should I believe the pair of them in the labour room when they were saying how they thought I could now do it?
In the end, it came down to my emotions at that moment in time, and it was such a huge decision to make. I hope you can get some wonderful answers and guidance here to help you make your decision...goodluck with it all
Wow that sounds just horrendous.
I am neither for or against either side of the debate, but having a baby isn't supposed to do your head in. It's not about feeling guilty or like you've failed. It's about bringing a new life into the world. Being terrified because you 'should' go one way is silly.
I'd be opting for the C-sec in your shoes. Like RHF said maybe ask for a later one, or
What would you do? love some opnions
whcih has taken a very long time and fertility treatment including an ectopic in the meantime, but in that time i have spoke to the ob who birthed my son, the ob who looked after me when i had my ectopic and now the ob i have for this child, they have all told me a CS is the best option, the reason being a very short perineal area. My current ob even with all my history agreed to let me have a VB until she examined me and then said she really wouldnt recommend it.
) but it seem the figures just stack up, either way seems to come with there own set of risks and i really couldnt bear to go through what i did before, so i know if the ob said induction i would definately opt for a CS. So really i i would just love some opnions (not stats) what would you do a Vb or and elective CS? Thank you so much if youve taken the time to read this very long post.
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