Great question Leash - but I think Ive just discovered some unresolved issues
I think this may turn into a boohoo...

With DD#2 some friends were there when I left the birth centre - and one of them was holding her as I was being discharged. I went downstairs in a wheelchair (was feeling a bit weak - was 24hrs post birth) then as we were going downstairs DD started crying. I said "I'll take her" as I really wanted to hold her anyway, but he just kept holding her.
DH was pushing me (in the wheelchair!) and I looked up at him and said "can you get her for me please?" but he was mucking around with our friends and instead was joking around about pushing the wheelchair trolley-style to see how fast and far it would go - with me still in it!
I felt completely violated, being in my vulnerable hormonal post-birth state, and I feel awful whenever I think about it

I think that made me cling to her after that, I rarely let people hold her as a tiny baby. I always kept her in the sling. No-one was going to take her away from me again!

Sorry about the emotional rant

Anyhoo, with DD#1 I walked out, DH was holding her. And I was fine with that