Who are you having in the delivery room?

[Beckibee]

I don't think your selfish either. I had my husband & my sister and I'm so pleased it turned out to be the perfect balance that I was hoping for. My DH was the silent encourager & supporter with his gentle touch. My sister was more vocal and provided the encouragement for me when I needed energy.

My mother created no end of problems as she felt she had the right to be in there even though she was told otherwise. We still haven't forgiven each other (she's angry because I wouldn't let her be there - in her mind there was something wrong with me because I didn't want her there. Meanwhile I haven't forgiven her for ignoring my wishes and standing outside the delivery room and calling out things to me.) Trust me, don't give into something that is not comfortable for you - your birthing experience could be severely effected. Ask my husband, my BP rose by 10 whenever my Mum said something to me - seriously.

At the end of the day hon, this is NOT about them as much as they might like to think it is. This birth is the arrival of you & your DH's child and what you both want & feel comfortable should be the end of the story.