Are you more or less nervous the 2nd + time around?

[MrsFabuloso]

delphmoon, I had the same experience as you, twice over. I have haemmoraged with all of my births (angels included) and with DD's birth adn DS2's births, I had the same thing done. It is excruciating, but they do it to try to get out what is causing you to haemmorage and to try to prevent you from having to go to theatre, which would mean general anaesthetic and a D&C to stop your bleeding. I didn't remember I had it done when I had DD until the doctor did it to me with DS2. It is amazingly painful and looking back I have no idea how I got through it. I had my doula with me the second time and she was in tears too. But to me, that is seperate to my births. I have seperated my births from the afters (the haemmoraging ect) because if I put them together I would have never done it again!

[Early Kids]

I was terrified, I kept having nightmares and visions of things going horribly wrong again. I got to the point where I needed to be medicated to be able to cope.
I hated pregnancy and DS1's birth has left me battling with PTSD and depression. The actual labour and pain associated with it didn't bother me at all, it was everything else that happened... DS1 required a full resuscitation and was very very sick (born with an infection @ 30 weeks). DS2 required ventilation because he stopped breathing (34 weeks). I haemorrhaged after all of my 'births' (2 live births, a late m/c and an early m/c). My babies were taken away from me, DS1 wasn't even put on my chest or anything I got to touch his hand quickly before they took him to the NICU, DS2 was placed on my chest but only for about 10 secs as he struggled (I freaked out because I knew something was wrong and didn't want a repeat of DS1's events).

The Dr was very supportive when I wanted my tubes tied at 24. I just can't do pregnancy well.

[CrazyLady]

I'm not more anxious of the labour but bub's well being actually. I've had to censor what I read of late because after so many losses on BB I was having anxiety attacks and nightmares. Regarding labour, I am scared when I actually labour I mean when will it happen. DD was induced because I had a massive spike in BP but this one my BP has remained steady and at a decent level so at this stage everything will be left to go naturally. With DD I was starting to dilate prior to being induced and I wasn't even aware it was happening. The dr thought I was lying when I said I hadn't had any back pain. I am also incredibly anxious about who will look after DD as I don't have any family nearby. I haven't had her babysat ever except for when I was visiting Melbourne MIL looked after her but DP was just in the yard the whole time so wasn't technically babysitting.

[Party-of-five]

With my 2nd I wasn't too worried just excited as there was an 8 year gap, but between number 2 and 3 there was only 17months between so it was still kind of fresh KWIM so I was a bit anxious but everything was ok once I was in labour

[delphmoon]

Crazylady- I know what you mean about censoring what you see and hear about birth labour etc. I think I do worry more now about things than I did with DD1

Lilias- Thanks for your words and for mentioning about seperating the actual birth away from all the other things. I think this is a great idea

[raffy]

Just quietly I'm pooping myself lol. With DS my labour was all over in under 2 hours, I only made to the hospital with 15 mins to spare and I had a fair bit of trauma that required immediate surgery. Before I didn't no any better but now I no what's gonna happen and I'm scared I'm not gonna even make it to the hospital this time

[delphmoon]

RAffy- MAybe we will both have to put on our 'brave hats' before labour

Also Raffy, I noticed you have an 8 month old already. HOw are you feeling about having 2 bubbas soo close together? I have an 11 month old who will be 15 months when cookies born and I am very pleased indeed, but I must admit...in the wee hours of the morn I think how the hell am i going to manage?

[Taurean]

I'm not more anxious of the labour but bub's well being actually. I've had to censor what I read of late because after so many losses on BB I was having anxiety attacks and nightmares.

I totally get what you mean. I'm not really getting too anxious yet but I'm so much more worried about complications, miscarriage and stillbirth this time. I love BB but that's one side of pregnancy I really don't want to know much about. I wish there was a way we could hide those threads at a personal 'settings' level because as much as I try not to read them, I find I always do. They are heartbreaking and I feel so much for those beautiful mummas but it really has created a whole other level of stress I just don't need during pregnancy. I didn't really worry about it at all with DD but I was relatively new to BB and stuck to the pregnancy threads.

I'm a little nervous about labour because like others, I know what to expect this time, but I think I'm more nervous that I'll have a more difficult birth, LOL! I had a tough posterior birth with DD but I think the whole experience was amazing! I truly loved it, I felt so empowered. I'm worried I won't have that this time round. Stupid hey

[delphmoon]

Not stupid at all Tauren..I think there are alot of us feeling the same way

[kristi14]

Ive just had #7 and i didnt get nervous with any of them.

I think its cos i knew they had to come out so just got on with the job and didnt try to analyse it too much.

Some were painful, others werent, but the painful ones never made me feel nervous about the next labour and birth.

I think birth is the single most awesome thing a woman can ever do, cs or vb...............simply awesome

[MummyOfTerrors]

i was more nervous 2nd time round mainly cause my 1st labour was induced and long and didnt go my way but i was more nervous about going into labour because i skipped over those steps with my 1st but 2nd time round i got my ideal labour/birth
this time im very nervous but theres other reasons to be but before these reasons came up i was really looking forward to labour/birth this time