Thanks so much everyone for your replies, they have given me something to think about and plan for. I wish I knew about BellyBelly with my first! I definitely think relaxation is one of the key things (I was definitely not relaxed first time!) and Cyathea and Julie, thanks for the practical things I can try. A home birth really isn't an option for me this far along though, but I will definitely labour as long as possible at home.

Thanks so much ladies, I feel much more informed now!

Trish