I'm not sure how far my mum got but she had a c/s firstly because I went into distress(don't they always say that!)And then when she had my sister she had a pelvic scan at about 36weeks and they said there was no way she was coming out vaginally as my mum has a small pelvis.

My sister got to 9.5cms then they tried to flip the cervix over her bubs head but my sister was screaming and in distress so they went the c/s.

You know what your saying about physcological elements being invovled in so spot on.My sister had a long labour and was totally exhausted and I had a 23 hour labour and was so tired and out of it and I must say my bub was posterior so the pain was unimaginable and I was in so much distress myself that I'm starting to think thats why they went the emergency c/s.When I thought about it later there was many things that they could have done to 'assist' me to deliver naturally but they never even tried, same with my sister.Then we were both told that our pelvises were to 'small" to birth a normal sized bub!I don't buy it though!How could we get that far during our labours then!I just reckon we were to stressed out, being our first bubs and all.

I'm going to make an appointment to see my old ob again I think.I went public when I had Gemma but was seeing a great ob/fertility specialist as I had trouble conceiving and needed a little help.

Thank you so much for all your advice.I'm not really in tune with how all of this works, but had an idea that I probably could have had a natural birth but because I was stressed they went the emergency c/s.Next time I'm going to be so much more prepared!Time to hit the books and do some serious research!

Edited to add:Corey is completely freaked out at the thought of me trying a VBAC!I think seeing me go through labour again has him nervous!I think a booked in c/s is so much more for the men then us!