Oh Carmen , you are not an incompetent mother. It is soooo hard when bub #2 first arrives, it is very normal that you need to spend more time with the newborn. It is difficult for the older child to adjust to not being the centre of attention any more. My DS1 was exactly the same, his behaviour was terrible for a month or two when his little brother arrived. But he eventually calmed down and worked out that we still loved him just as much as before, but life had changed.

You are doing a great job, don't you forget that .