my wonderful labour and then trauma after birth * Very Long!*

[gemini_girl]

dusty thank you for sharing your birth story. I have tears in my eyes... what is it with the threads I read, I have had tears in my eyes several times tonight. I am amazed at the level of detail you have described. Your after birth sounds scary. I hope you are recovering well. Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl. She is gorgeous. Bless your beautiful sister and DH.

All the best.

Danni

[~Kaz~]

Amazing story Dusty. MummaSue is right, you are a superstar! Thank you so much for sharing, the way you handled going overdue, your negotiations with your carers, how you handled your labour is very inspirational.

I'm sorry you had such a rough time after the birth Look after yourself. xx

[onthefly]

Congratulations again Dusty! Waht a gorgeous birthing story for your little girl.
All the best with processing the post-birth trauma and your continuing recovery

[Cassius2]

thank you so much for sharing your story Dusty!!

that elation when they are there on your chest is just something isnt it??!!

[Trillian]

I know we talked about this yesterday, but I had no idea the after part was so bad. Well I knew it was bad, but not the extent Which makes me even more glad you're feeling a bit better.

[Malyna]

First of all a big hug.

Thank you for sharing your story. I went through a similar thing with the after birth care on the ward - which was why I left hospital less than three days after a c-section. The stark contrast between care received in the Birth centre and the ward is cruel. Every shift I was given different advice on BF - got home and Alex and I worked it out.

You did it. Your amazing. She is beautiful!!

[thepixie]

You did it. Your amazing. She is beautiful!!

I can't say it any better than that! Dusty it has been a long hard road, but it is wonderful that you finally have your miracle child.
I'm sorry it wasn't all as positive as the birth itself wishing you a speedy recovery so you can concentrate all your energy on enjoying your princess.

[tippytoes]

Wow DW what a lot you have been through. You poor thing. You have done an amazing job so far Your baby girl is just adorable xx

[Mum2Romone]

Amazing Dusty

Congratulations on your birth and beautiful little girl,

Over 4 kgs Wow you're great, ds was 2755 g and I had a third degree tear, five stitches

[kristi14]

You did so well.

Im pleased you are able to seperate the highs and the lows as that can be very difficult to do.

Well done and Congratulations

[onthefly]

I think there are lots of reasons we don't share so much.
Sometimes maybe we just don't want to face it ourselves.
I don't like mentioning the forceps (IRL at least) because that becomes the focus (possibly that's just my perception). But honestly that wasn't the worst part by a long shot.

Anyway, I hope you're being better cared for now Dusty And don't feel guilty - with things like birth, the end result and the process are almost entirely separate things.

[Bun]

Wow, what a story, thank you for sharing with us. You did an amazing job birthing your little girl and I hope you are recovering well xx

[CeCe]

Dusty,

Thank you for sharing your birth story. You did an amazing job with your support team. Good on your DH standing up for you too when it was needed. There are similarities between my experience and yours, unfortunately the post-natal ward is one of them. I'm here if you want to talk about it. I'm glad you can separate it from your birth experience though. You did a fantastic job.

[Mum2SweetCs]

That is a beautifully written birth story!

Enjoy your gorgeous daughter!!!

ETA: ehheh yeh i was laughing at how you thought DD was a boy!!!

[Deedles]

Oh gosh what a truly amazing Birthing experience.
You did such a wonderful job birthing your daughter and WOW, you are so strong!!

[CeCe]

I did chuckle at declaring a boy first, but then the rest of your story carried me away from that. I had no idea you had that much trouble after birth and as for the post-natal ward, I was just hoping it was my experience and not wide spread. Thankfully I had DH who rallied the birth cente MW's and met with the head of post-natal who herself apologised and said the sooner they got us home the safer we'd be! Thank you for sharing though - I'm still processing the part of my experience.

[dusty]

Your DH did well Ce. We were forced to spend an extra night against my wishes (I would have had to voluntarily sign myself out). I didn't have the BC support because my 'real' MW was away that weekend, and the rest of the BC staff were busy and short staffed. Hence no one looked after DD and I. In fact we didn't see anyone from the BC until day 3 & I think the PN people thought the BC were looking after us, and I wasn't told about what happened or my injuries by a doctor until the 2nd day on PN.

BTW you can fill out a feed back form online at the hospital website and apparently they have to follow it up. Looks like we should catch up soon to debrief and play with each other's bubs. So funny your DS arrived before DD

[Trillian]

I guess we don't talk about it for a few different reasons - thinking that those listening might not want to hear so much detail, or that they are still processing it themselves. I know some people IRL who are quite up for talking about all the 'gory' details and others who view birth simply as a process you go through to get a baby and would rather not go into details. Also too I think that some dismiss what happens to them because they think that it is part and parcel of giving birth so there is no point saying anything for fear of being seen as complaining kwim? Like the whole 'at least bubs is healthy' thing. And how many birth stories do you read on here that mention they poo'ed on the bed? I think I have only read one in all my years being on here. I know I didn't include it in mine because I didn't think it was necessary to add, even though I know I'm not the only woman who's done it LOL.