you've put in a fantastic effort to do all the pumping, etc. I did the same with my DS so completely understand how time consuming, and mentally physically exhausting it can be. Don't feel like you've just given up because it sounds to me you've done all you possibly can and that's great!

As for your boobs, you might need to express off a little bit for comfort, hand expressing in a warm shower can work well. Give the ABA a ring, they will have some other tips.