My DD1 is dumping her night feed. She's only had one for 2 of the last 7 nights. She's also stopped having a feed when she wakes up from a nap, even if I offer. And often falls asleep out and about, in the car or pram, without a boob, so some days she's down to one feed a day. It's still the first thing she says when she wakes up though "have some milk?" So I think she's still a way off weaning! Mind you, she's sick now, and DD2 is teething, so I haven't done up my bra for hours, they've had about fifty feeds each today. My boobs are floppy as!
Ladylove - my DD2 is refusing a few night feeds too! I've been mega clucky this week, though, so I sense ovulation, despite the previous endless night feeding. I had to get up and settle her on the couch last night! The COUCH! The horror! She slept well, though, I'll try it again. Because <6 feeds a night would be pretty cool. Anyway, wrong thread for that, she's only 8 months
Well it seems as though you are right Cookie- I'm up the duff again. A bit vulnerable as I had a very early miscarriage in May but there you go. She refused her bedtime feed last night again but woke up 2:30 am and had a small feed. But then wouldn't let me put her back to bed so we both dozed on the chair for a while then I popped her down again, she screamed one blue murder scream then promptly fell back asleep!
Ps Luna Moth DD always wants to feed more at night around ovulation for me too. She must love my ovulation flavoured milk, hate my pregnancy flavoured milk
Congratulations Ladylove! I wondered if you had a little stowaway too, cos your daughter's refusal was very similar to how my kids reacted to pregnancy. Best wishes for a smooth 9months.
I am almost 12 weeks pg, and DS is a little more keen to feed than a few weeks ago. Supply is way down, but we are doing ok.
On the weekend, DD told my brother "I only drink cows milk now!", which was a bit sad. It was her first acknowledgement that she has finished, even though she hasn't had a feed for over a month. My SIL was breastfeeding her new baby under a wrap, and DD asked what she was doing, and then moved the wrap and poked her head in, kissing the baby. DD obviously has no issue with boobs and using them to feed a baby.
In the past few weeks, DD has had some issue with going #2s. it was only last night that i wondered if it could be related to weaning. she has never had any issues before. anyone whose older children have weaned, did you see similar issues? also did you add anything extra to their diet, post weaning? wondering about probiotics or fish oils or something.
Buster will be 20 months in a few days and he is still having one feed a day, morning as soon as he gets up. The day before yesterday he refused and I was so anxious that he was giving it up for good! Last baby and all But then sometime in the afternoon it's like he suddenly remembered and boy did we all hear about it! So we'll see. I'm really hoping to get to 2 years.
Well I'm not sure that DD will last that long! Do babies / toddlers usually return to the breast after an initial strike if you're pregnant?
Hotl I did think of you actually and I remembered you talking about BF strikes prior to finding out your were pregnant, and I remember Jen went through something similar. I didn't put two and two together until very recently though. And I'm surprised at how full my boobs are. DD did have a small feed during the night last night but I'm so full feeling.
Ladylove - I completely understand your apprehension - I also had an early miscarriage in May (I actually found out I had been pregnant because I started miscarrying), so you can imagine I am nervous, nervous, nervous!
I wondered too, LL, but DD2 is still bfing and I'm 18 wks tomorrow. I know there's still milk, not sure how much. But I think she's enjoying the cuddles as well, especially with being home without me three days atm while I'm working. I'm pretty confident she'll keep up the morning and night time bfs throughout. The one before her nap she does without while I'm working and the only reason I still give it to her when I'm home is it sometimes puts her to sleep!
You might find your DD comes back to it after she adjusts.
Only sign I got of pregnancy was switch feeding, and later nipple pain, so I'm no help. My personal experience is that tandem feeding kinda sucks, so I wouldn't be terribly upset if my kid weaned. Other mums seem to ace it though.
I lied today to a friend and said my DD has stopped nursing. I felt awful but I felt it was better then the alternative, which was feeling like I have to justify it to her. That's the first time I've ever not said I still BF, I'm finding some people go all awkward when it's mentioned I still nurse now.
How are your friends and family? Not that it should matter. Just curious.
I tend to not mention it unless directly asked. And then I'm honest. She doesn't want to give it up, it's not hurting either one of us, or anyone else. I think I must have an air of "don't mess with me" cos no one has.
Actually, I lie. One friend made a sarcastic comment about not feeding when dd is 15. I don't think she's ever copped a written (chat) lecture on natural weaning and attachment parenting, and the fact we went to hell and back to get dd as compared to her (four kids in six years) so were doing it our way in our time. I was tired and peeved and let her know. She hasn't been brave enough to mention it again.
Funny enough, less than two weeks later dd had decided she wanted out of our room. She only has boob maybe every two or three nights when she isn't quite tired enough to crash without it. She has even gone to sleep with dh when I was unwell. I guess she is doing it her way - just the way I want it to be
I fed my DD through pregnancy and to the age of 3, so friends and family who might have an issue with it know that their views don't really interest me and i am pretty confident in my decision. I think once you get past about 18 months, people just don't ask anymore cos they assume you have finished, realise you are a lost cause or it doesn't really matter to them anymore. I don't feel the need to tell people (if it doesn't come up) and both mine began feeding less out after 12 ish months, so some people are surprised to hear that DD fed til when she did.
Occasionally I tell people I'm still feeding both because I came across so much bewilderment around tandem feeding when I was pregnant and I kind of want to get it out there. I truly honestly don't care what people think, so it suits me to be honest. If they ask, I'll usually say "sometimes I think about giving up, but sometimes I'm really glad I still am, and mostly I like it.
I'm pretty open about breastfeeding because I want others to feel they can be too. I know I was more guarded with my first though but after 3+yrs with her, feeding through a pregnancy, tandem feeding for 6mo (till DD1 decided to wean) and now at 18mo with the second, I'm pretty comfortable with it lol. It just seems so normal to me now that I don't even think to not just mention it. When I was feeding my first 18mo, it felt like such a huge deal but now it is the opposite, it seems weird to me to think my DD2 wouldn't be feeding at 18mo... like I just forget it isn't the standard thing to do. And that really shows me the benefit of getting it out there because the more I did it, the more normal it became and I think those around me felt that ripple affect too.
Was kind of funny, the other day I ran into somebody who used to babysit me as a young child and she mentioned she saw my public breastfeeding piece that went viral earlier this year and I kind of internally braced but she started on about how proud she was. That made me a little chuffed. I've had much more positivity than negativity, thankfully and the positivity is so nice to hear sometimes!
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wow LL! Congratulations! Well, welcome [back] to the tandem feeding journey!
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