Im so sorry your BF experience started out so horribly, I feel for everyone in this thread who has been through the same.
I was lucky and had a good BFing class that I attended a week before birth, I was glad I did, else I wouldnt have had a clue either.
The MWs where I was were ok, some very bad, in the end, I just "got on with it" without their help, like I said though, I was lucky (and very grateful) that its been a relatively easy ride for us.
But for my friend, who rang me from her hospital and asked me how many hours between feeds for a 3 day old baby, as she couldnt get a straight answer from anyone there, I was shocked at some of what she was told.
like, dont wake him to feed, I asked how long he had been asleep, oh about 6 hours now, she said, I told her to wake him up and feed him. I then told her that all I did was put him on everytime he made a noise, everytime he woke up. etc.
I think its sad that this seems to be such a common thing, Hope eveything is going well now. xx